5 Top Tips To Deal With Wedding Planning Overwhelm

Welcome to the World of Wedding Planning Stress…

You’re engaged. Congratulations! You’re on top of the world, dreaming of your big day, and the happiness of spending the rest of your life with the one you love more than anyone else.

But then… after a few days/weeks/years of basking in the glow of your own future happiness, you realise that if you want to actually get married, you’ll need to start planning. And boy, is there a lot to do.

Planning a wedding can feel overwhelming at times, and at many different stages in the process. Beat back overwhelm and streamline your wedding planning experience with my 5 top tips to beat wedding planning stress.

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Tip 1: Figure out what’s important to you and your partner

This worksheet is a really great way to get all your ideas in one place, so you can really easily streamline your planning process, and not waste time on things that neither you nor your partner really want. 

I’d recommend you and your partner work together on this. If you can, sit down together for an hour or so with a glass of wine, a cup of tea or a bottle of gin, and work through the sheet together. At this early stage, anything is possible, and there are no bad ideas.

Work through each of the headings to really get you thinking about aspects of your relationship that you’d like to showcase, and what neither of you are really bothered about. 

Whatever you decide, the worksheet will help guide you towards finding the style which best suits you both. It can also help make the decisions on where you’re best putting your budget to help get the wedding of your dreams.

To download the worksheet, click on this link and print off a copy.

For more information and ideas on how to work through the headings, check out How To Plan Your Perfect Wedding on Amazon.

Tip 2: Make a big list

Yeah. Sounds obvious. But have you done it? Have you got everything – and I mean everything written down and all in one place for easy access?

You’ve probably started making lists already. You can’t sleep because of things popping into your head. Get it out of your brain and down onto your notebook app, some scrap paper, or in your gorgeous, shiny and new wedding notebook. I like a spreadsheet for some tasks, (hello, making my Christmas Shopping List), or I use Google Docs when I want to add things in to various categories.

What you want is a master list of everything that needs doing. 

Honestly, I think this is the hardest bit of wedding planning. You’re doing a lot of thinking all in one go. What this means is, when you do get some free time to do some wedding admin, you don’t have to waste time/get put off by spending 10 minutes deciding what to do. Think how much time that will save you over the course of your entire wedding planning journey! Time you can spend feeling smug and eating chocolate, if you like. (I like). 

Starting is always the hardest part, so check out my free printable starter list for ideas.

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Tip 3: Concentrate on smaller tasks

Have a good think about every little job which makes up all your big jobs. Think about what you’d be likely to achieve in, say, 15 or 30 minutes. Having bite-size jobs makes it easier to complete – you’re more likely to find 15 minutes than an hour, and can slot your tasks in throughout the day.

If you’ve got over 100 wedding favours to tie up in little organza baggies, you’re not going to feel like doing all 100 straight after a long shift at work. But if you’re only going to take 15 minutes to make a start on it, then that’s a lot easier to do. Big tasks are easier if you chip away at them, then before you know it – Boom! All organza baggies filled, tied, and looking gorgeous. You get the warm feeling of getting things done without the stress of having to find hours or days to devote to Wedding Planning. Which brings us to…

Tip 4: Cross things off your list

Once a task is completed, just cross it off. I score through with a line so I can still read it, but that’s because I like to be able to look back and see the things I’ve done. It’s really useful if you need to remember when you spoke to a supplier, or paid a deposit.

Don’t forget to add in things you did that weren’t on your list – and immediately cross them off!

Sounds dumb – yes. Is dumb? A bit. But trust me, and try it. That little rush of endorphins you get when you do it will help Wedding Planning stress disappear.

Tip 5: Listen to the experts

Whether you’re getting married for the first or the fifth time, that ain’t a lot of wedding you’ve planned. Use the knowledge and expertise of your wedding suppliers and don’t be afraid to pick their brains for advice! Wedding suppliers have so much experience, and they love to share that with you, to help you get the most out of your big day.

Doing it all yourself? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. I had the pleasure of interviewing some of my favourite wedding suppliers, from cake artists to photographers, and asked them for their top tips and tricks to help you plan your wedding, stress free. Head on over to Amazon or Etsy to download or order a copy of How To Plan Your Perfect Wedding: A Stress Free Guide to Designing Your Big Day to get hold of their advice. 

There we have it – hopefully these tips will help make planning your big day a more stress-free experience. If you’ve started your planning and are ready to move on to wedding stationery, check out my store!

Corporate Event Stationery – ✨It’s Party Time!✨

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Festive Range – click the image to visit the gallery!

Christmas Party Season is approaching, but we’ve got you covered with our Festive Corporate Event Stationery Range!

If you’re looking for that little something to take your events to the next level, then Giftast may have the solution for you.

From Christmas parties to black-tie dinners, we offer something for almost every occasion. There’s also a bespoke design service for those once-in-a-lifetime events. We offer free colour changes and logo placement to enhance your brand.

You can view our range here, or download our brochure. We also offer free samples on request.

Giftast Loves… The Improbability of Love, by Hannah Rothschild

Review: The Improbability of Love, by Hannah Rothschild, Knopf.

Now, it’s about love and it’s about art. That’s all the justification I need for having this on my wedding blog. 

I like books with paintings in. Every book I’ve written to date features at least one artist, (yeah, I do that sometimes too…) and some of my favourite books centre around either particular paintings or the art world. There’s Jilly Cooper’s Pandora, A. S. Byatt’s The Children’s Book and now, Hannah Rothschild’s The Improbability of Love.

When I left university (having studied Illustration), I was entirely disillusioned and determined never to pick up a pencil again. I hated everything I had created, and had lost all sense of pride in my work. Now, I could say something extremely bitter here about the quality of teaching I received, but frankly, if you choose a university based only on how close it is to your home and nothing else, you’ve only got yourself to blame.

As the years went by I dabbled here and there, but I had forgotten how it used to be.

I had lost all the joy in creating.

Then, quite by chance, two events collided. I started to read The Improbability of Love, and I saw my old artwork from school for the first time in almost 10 years. I realised just how much I had lost. Looking through my portfolio from AS Level to the end of Uni, I saw how the pleasure had gone out of creating and how my education, rather than pulling me forward, had pushed me back to a level of such deep insecurity that I was unable to paint. I will say one thing for my art education – it’s taught me how to be extremely critical.

I’ve since gone on to start drawing again, and creating, and in the process started Giftast. Is it down to this book? No. Did this book help give me a little push in the right direction? Undoubtedly.

The Improbability of Love reminded me of a feeling I had completely forgotten – of being entirely captivated by a painting. Of having the process of creating something with your hands be the first and last thing in your mind. Of being all-consumed.

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What’s The Book About?

The story centres around one painting, The Improbability of Love, and chronicles the effect that art can have on the lives of those it touches. From the just-not-bothered to the obsessed, from those who want to bask in reflected glory to those who feel a deep attachment, Rothschild skilfully answers the question of what makes art, art, and what makes one picture more valuable than another.

Rothschild presents a broad cast of characters, from exiled Russian billionaires to struggling tour-guides, through the impoverished British aristocracy and dusty scholars. She opens up a world of sleaze, intrigue and high integrity. She contrasts the life of the artist, both idealised and not, and the gravitational pull that mysterious world has on those who surround themselves in it. There is a great deal of difference between, for example, Damien Hirst, and Watteau, painter of the story’s central masterpiece. There is a greater distance still between the work of those who create and those who deal in high art, and Rothschild illustrates this perfectly.

For me the real beauty of The Improbability of Love is that it makes me want to go to museums and galleries. It makes my hands stretch out to paint, it reminds me of the way I feel when I create something meaningful.

Have you read The Improbability of LoveI’d love to hear what you thought!

A version of this post first appeared on Murder and Manners on May 9th 2016

Giftast Loves… Beneath The Dead Oak Tree, by Emily Carroll

I’ve decided to do a series of blog posts called Giftast loves, because there’s loads of cool stuff I get so see in the wedding and art community. I wanted the opportunity to share that with you guys, in the hope it would be helpful with inspiration for your wedding planning.

With that in mind, this first blog post… does not really fit the brief. Let me introduce you to Beneath the Dead Oak Tree, by Emily Carroll. See, being best friends with one of the best people who writes about comics in the world means that I get to see a lot of cool stuff which would otherwise pass me by.

Be still, my goth heart.

Beneath the Dead Oak Tree is, in short, made especially for me, and containing all of the things I love. Thank you, Emily Carroll, lady I have never met!

Close up of this beauty: Foxes in frockses

You want anthropomorphic foxes in period frocks?

Gorgeous, rich artwork, filled with detail that you can stare at for hours?

Intrigue and mystery?

Gatsby parties meets Marie Antoinette costume?

You want *SPOILER*, *SPOILER* and *SPOILER*??

Well, you got it.

Beneath the… shadow of the tomato plant.

It’s dark, it’s beautiful, it’s chilling. At 28 pages, it’s a short read but the wealth of detail keeps you there and pulls you back for multiple rereads.

It’s just beautiful, and the dresses are *chef’s finger kiss*. You can get it from ShortBox Comics, a steal at £7 for that gorgeous quality printing and incredible artwork.